Things That Women Don’t Tell Men
If there’s one thing I know about women, it’s that we rarely tell men the truth about what’s really going on in our heads. We don’t want to hurt their feelings or come off as difficult, which means you rarely hear the blunt, honest truth from women when they talk to guys they are dating or friends with. But men deserve the truth and here are 7 things that women don’t tell men.
1) I wasn’t always confident
I remember when I was younger, I would constantly compare myself to other girls and wish that I looked like them or had their confidence. It wasn’t until I got a little older that I realized that confidence is something that you have to work on and cultivate. And it’s something that definitely doesn’t come overnight! Here are seven things that women don’t tell men, but should
2) I was too scared to speak up
I was recently chatting with a group of girlfriends and the topic of what we don’t tell our partners came up. We all agreed that there are certain things we keep to ourselves because we’re afraid of how our men will react. Here are seven things that women don’t tell men, but should!
- I’m afraid of being judged.
- I need more compliments.
- Sometimes, I feel like I’m not good enough for you.
- Your friends/family/colleagues intimidate me.
- I want to feel like I’m your equal partner, not just your girlfriend/wife/mother of your children.
3) I can be a real girly girl sometimes
I like getting my nails done, shopping for clothes, and experimenting with different makeup looks. But I can also be a total tomboy. I’m not afraid to get dirty, I love playing sports, and I’m always up for a adventure. Just because I like being feminine doesn’t mean that I’m not also tough as nails.
4) I have bad days too
Just because I’m a woman doesn’t mean that I don’t have bad days. In fact, sometimes it feels like I have more bad days than good! And just like you, on those days I don’t always feel like talking. But that doesn’t mean that I don’t want to connect with you. So here are seven things that women don’t usually tell men, but definitely should!
- We need you to be patient with us.
- We need you to listen to us, even if we’re not always making sense.
- We need you to be there for us, even when we push you away.
- We need your support, even when we’re feeling strong and independent.
5) I feel lonely sometimes too
You’re not the only one that feels lonely sometimes. Just because we’re women doesn’t mean that we don’t feel the same way as you do. We get just as lonely, just as scared, and just as lost at times. And it’s okay to admit that to each other. It doesn’t make either of us weak or needy, it just makes us human. So next time you’re feeling lonely, remember that I’m right here feeling it with you.
6) You do not have to save me all the time
We are perfectly capable of taking care of ourselves, thank you very much. Sometimes, we just need you to listen and be there for us, without trying to fix everything.
We appreciate your effort, but sometimes we just want you to do things because you want to do them, not because you feel like you have to (three sentences): It’s nice when you offer to help with the dishes or fold our laundry, but sometimes we just want you to do it because you want to, not because you feel like you have to. We appreciate your effort, but sometimes it would be nice if you just did things because you wanted to do them, not because you felt like you had to.
7) We need more than sex
We need intimacy, we need to feel connected, and we need to feel like our needs are being met. Sometimes, sex is just a way to get those needs met. It’s not always about the physical act itself.
We have bad days too (two sentences): Just because we’re women doesn’t mean that we don’t have bad days. We get stressed out, we get overwhelmed, and sometimes we just need a break.
We’re not always in the mood (three sentences): There are a lot of factors that go into our mood and sometimes sex is just the last thing on our minds. We might be tired, we might be PMS-ing, or we might just not be feeling it.